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Rob and Cher - celebrating 50 years of being a couple |
I still
recall that first auspicious meeting . We were living In Kitwe, Zambia a copper
mining town in Zambia, Central Africa. My Mom and Dad had invited friends over
for drinks and a meal. My Mom had told me, who was 14 at the time, that the
Tobins would be bringing their thirteen year old daughter and I was expected to
show my face. I remember skulking in my room and eventually plucked up the courage to show
myself. I bounded up the stairs wearing my best bright purple shiny shirt with
long collars, along with my bell bottom trousers and there at the top was a
delight to behold; Cheryl with a bright smile, wearing one of those awful tent dresses
that were all the rage at one stage. They made their wearers look like they
were expecting twins. I never quite could see the attraction of that attire.
Expatriate teenagers in those days had to attend boarding school in
either Rhodesia, South Africa or UK, so Cher and I both lived away from home
most of the time. In the school holidays, Cher and I used to hang out with
other teens who were also away at boarding school. Our parents were family
friends, so over the years we had lots of opportunity to get to know each
other.
Cher was
always high on my list of “prospective girl friends”, but I could never quite
pluck up the courage to make a move. Finally at age 21, I made my move and the rest is history. We married
three years later and here we are 50 years later and we’re still best friends
and count our blessings for each other every day.
And this is
the year we get to celebrate the adventure that our 50 years together has been.
Starting
off with a Bang
Sunday,May 18th, 2025
Our family
came over for a giant family birthday party. We had a crowd of about 20 or so
and were celebrating about five or six birthdays, which were all happening
within a few weeks of each other. We are so blessed to have so much of our
family living within an hour’s drive of us, who have all gravitated from South
Africa over the 34 years we have lived here.
Elaine,
Sammy and Esther stayed overnight, as Sammy had arranged to meet up with a Port
Perry buddy on Monday, so that was nice to have a bit of quality time with
them. The next day would be the beginning of our 50th anniversary
adventure
Monday,
May 19th, 2025
We have a
standing arrangement with good friends of ours, Melad and Azza Markos, who
originated in Egypt and are now running a ministry reaching out to Middle
Eastern immigrants. They live close to the airport and babysit our car while we are away travelling. We helped
them out once and this is their way of returning the favor. We had a cup of tea
with them and had their two delightful sons, Samuel and Reuben, who are both
fine young Christian men, making their parents proud with their academic and
Godly pursuits in life.
We boarded
our Air Canada flight, bound for Heathrow Airport in UK. First order of the
flight is to scroll through scores of movies to find something that appeals.
Then of course we enjoyed a meal of the best that Air Canada can offer,
followed by a few short hours of napping fitfully before we were touching down
at Heathrow early on Tuesday morning.
Tuesday,
May 20th, 2025
Entry into
UK, with our British passports was seamless compliments of their latest facial
recognition technology. Another dubious tribute to AI which continues to creep
deeper into our lives at every opportunity.
Our first
priority was to get a Europe wide cell phone plan up and running. Thirty pounds
later, we had unlimited texting, calling and 100 GB of data for a month. With
our international connectdness assured, we could relax and catch a coffee and a
sandwich while we waited for our bus connection to Swansea, Wales on the
National Express coach
The four-hour
National Express coach has to be one of the best deals around. It cost 52
pounds for both of us. We travelled in first class comfort, while the driver
navigated the M4 motorway with great skill and panache. Those big coaches can
really move. What a pleasure. On a recent previous trip we had rented a car and
this was a far more relaxing way to navigate the road system.
We arrived
around 4pm, met by Cher’s sister Lynne who drove us to her apartment building
where we were put up in the guest suite, complete with our own ensuite
bathroom. A cup of tea was on the boil and Ian, Lynne’s son popped in with his
wife Linda and son Caleb to say hi. Their daughter Lawrie was sick so couldn’t
join us.
By then lack
of sleep and jet lag had taken hold and we were ready for an early night, We
took our various sleeping potions, Melatonin for me and were soon off in the
land of Nod.
Wednesday
May 21st, 2025
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Lynne and Cher at Singleton Park, Swansea |
We were
invited to Lynne’s for a great B&B breakfast before we headed out for a day
of taking in the sights of Swansea. Very close to Lynne’s apartment is a
gigantic park, which one can walk all the way down to the seafront on. It
includes a botanical garden and is a magnificent tribute to the town planners
who have safeguarded this area for the local dogs and their owners. It was a
pleasure to observe many dogs running freely and enjoying their surroundings
whilst giving their owners their daily exercise.
Next up was
a drive to the Mumbles waterfront. This is a very popular beachfront attraction
which apparently is best avoided on the weekends. We walked along the
beautifully finished waterfront trail and then climbed the hill in the
background and walked back through the houses perched on the hillside.
By then we
were ready for lunch and settled for a cozy little restaurant serving simple
fare. I decided it was time to sample some local cuisine. I took the suggestion
of two ladies sitting at the table alongside us and ordered faggots (spicy meat
balls), mushy peas, mash and lots of gravy. It was a good choice, and my two local
dietary mentors were delighted when I mentioned that I had enjoyed it. They
departed, satisfied that they had done their bit to promote Welsh cuisine that
day.
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Celebrating Cher's birthday - cake and all |
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Front L-R: Lynne, Cher, Jen Back L- R: Rob, Ian, Linda, Caleb |
Thursday
May 22nd, 2025
This was a
big day. We had planned to meet up with two of Cher and Lynne’s cousins halfway
between them and Swansea. We did the two-hour drive east, taking us to the far
side of Bristol. Our friendly and ever patient GPS patiently re-directed us
when we ignored her suggestion, by taking us half an hour out of our way via
some very narrow and somewhat sketchy side roads and farm roads.
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L-R: Cousin Jan, Cher, Lynne, Rob, Cousin Lynda |
We had a
pleasant couple of hours over a meal catching up on family news and shooting
the breeze before it was time to head back in our various directions. I took
the opportunity in the back seat to offer up my daily jet lagged offering by
having a snooze while Cher and Lynne nattered up front.
Our evening
was wrapped up by yet another round of Golf, where the competition was hot.
Friday
May 23rd, 2025
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Swansea beach at low tide |
We decided to walk off some of our excess eating, by walking down through the park to the waterfront. We then strolled along the beach for a while picking at shells and getting some fresh air into our lungs. We made our way back up to the park via the University and then on into the botanical gardens. I have been pleasantly surprised at how rich and lush the vegetation is in this part of the world. The botanical gardens have been beautifully put together and immaculately maintained and was a pleasure to wander through. We could have easily spent half a day in there. We, however, had an appointment with our beds and were soon tucked up for what is fast becoming our daily snooze.
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Botanical Gardens in Singleton Park An oasis of lush beauty |
The evening ended with our mandatory game of Golf. We have now each won one game, so tomorrow night will reveal who has final bragging rights.
Saturday
May 24th, 2025
Top of our
agenda this day was to watch the online memorial service for Peter Hunter in
East London, South Africa. Peter had been part of our small group that we were
part of 35 – 40 years ago. He had been struggling with cancer in recent years
and had finally succumbed to it. The service took place at Stirling
Presbyterian church, where we had attended whilst living in East London.
It was a
great celebration of Peter’s life. His wife Penny shared some moments from
their life together, followed by some family members offering up tributes. It
was good to join in the hope we have of seeing Peter again in Heaven one day.
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Cher & Lynne - about to tuck into their roast beef and Yorkshire pudding lunch, along with the ladies who prepared it. |
The day
wrapped up with our final game of Golf which was conclusive that I had the
winning touch. My bragging rights are now secure for the time being and life is
sweet.
Sunday
May 25th, 2025
Jet lag was
still lurking in the background and Cher and I were both awake early. We
decided to go for an early morning walk in the park, which was gorgeous.
Next up was
church at Pantygwydr Baptist. We attended the pre-service prayer meeting,
followed by a nice service. The preacher was a young woman who had the broadest
Welsh accent I’ve heard yet. It was quite hard to make out what she was saying.
The English have been quite successful at exporting their language all over the
globe. They have not however succeeded in training their various English
speakers to speak the gold standard King’s English which would of course,
facilitate mutual co-operation and understanding.
After church
Lynne was in search of a particular locally made necklace as a gift for
someone. The maker of the necklace’s was running a booth out in the country at
a gluten free fair in a community hall.
We arrived, to find that we were about the only visitors at the fair.
Every booth holder eyed us hungrily, hoping desperately that we would come and
avail ourselves of their gluten free wares. We found Lynne’s necklaces and fled
the gluten gals who were hovering a bit too close for our comfort.
We had
decided to take Lynne for a pub meal. After some very adventurous country driving,
we finally found a nice country pub that fitted the bill. We had not booked an
indoor table, so were consigned to the courtyard where we sat freezing in the
wind, while the locals sat in tee shirts and shorts alongside us enjoying the
sunny spring day.
We wrapped up
our day with a stroll to Ian and Linda’s house where we said our goodbyes
whilst avoiding hugs and bugs as much as possible.
We headed
home to pack up for the next stage of our trip, namely London the Chunnel and
then gay Paris. It was early to bed, we had a big week ahead of us.
Monday
May 26th, 2025
We were up and at ‘em early in time to catch our 10am train departing for Paddington station in London. We said our farewells to Lynne and we were off. Week 2 of our four week adventure was ahead.
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The train ride from London to Swansea, was was fast, silent and very comfortable |
We lucked
out and found empty seats with a table, so we could spread out a bit. We were
soon joined by a giggling gaggle of gals. Three Moms and three girls who were to enjoy a day of male free shopping,
the best kind, in Cardiff. We got
chatting and spent a pleasant hour or so making friends with these three
ladies.
Our train
ride was pleasant. The train was fast and smooth with a handful of stops and we
were soon drawing into Paddington station around 12.10pm. Our hotel was a short
walk where we deposited our luggage whilst waiting for our check in time.
We had
planned to meet up Viv and Simon Tuley for lunch and a catch up visit. Viv and
Cher had been girlhood friends in our Zambian days. They have kept in contact
over the years. We had attended their wedding in the London area in the early
to mid 80’s when we were living there for a couple of years.
Reconnecting
with old friends is always pleasant. Lots of happy memories to enjoy together
and a solid shared foundation. We found a pub which offered us a reasonable
meal at an ok price and enjoyed filling in the gaps that had developed over
recent years.
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L-R: Simon, Viv, Cheryl and Rob |
The stairs
were steep and narrow and became more so, at each level. After one level we
decided to leave Cher’s suitcase with the friendly receptionist, but I bravely
continued lugging mine while Cher flitted lightly up the stairs to open the
room. By the time I made it to level two I was ready to call it a day. I
dragged myself up to level three and found Cher sitting sipping a cup of tea,
filing her nails. I am kidding of course. I had to abandon my macho image and
asked Cher nicely if she would mind leaving her finger nails till later and
help me with my bag. Oh dear, how far I have fallen. Fifty years ago, asking
Cher for help with a mere bag would have been unthinkable. Sigh. Such are the
joys of advancing years.
As it turned out our room was a strong competitor for the
worst hotel room, we have ever “enjoyed”. The bed barely fitted into the space,
with a narrow space to maneuver around its one side, with the other tight up
against the wall. The en suite bathroom made our tight RV bathroom feel like a
spacious mansion. We couldn’t open our window or our curtains as the guys
working on the scaffolding could have stepped into our room and joined us for a
cup of tea. Oh well, the price was right.
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Rob and Cher doing our occassional pilgrimage to Buckingham Palace |
On our way
back we walked down Edgeware Road which was full of Middle Eastern restaurants
and shops. It reminded us of our visit to Israel and Turkey a few years back.
Men and women were sitting at outside tables, smoking hookah pipes. We braved
one of the restaurants with their exotic menus and enjoyed a tasty soup and
naan bread supper before heading back to our hotel to enjoy the pleasures of a
tight double bed with lumpy mattress. We think we may have found our winner for
“worst hotel ever in 50 years”.
Tuesday
May 27th, 2025
We had a bit
of time to lie in. We were being picked up by our Uber at 10am. Our hotel did
offer a full English breakfast which did much to alleviate our otherwise
negative opinions of our stay with them.
Our Uber
arrived on time to take us to St. Pancras Station where we were due to catch a
ride on the Chunnel train, the Eurostar, to Paris. We enjoyed chatting with our
Uber driver, an Iraqi gentleman who has lived and worked in Dubai, Italy and
now UK.
The Eurostar
station at St. Pancras was a zoo. With trains departing for Paris every half
hour it was literally jammed with people from top to bottom and end to end. The
line up of people was a solid mass of people zig zagging into security, then UK
departure and finally French entry. It was quite the experience. The train
seating is like being on a plane – a bit tight but comfortable. The Chunnel
tunnel travels 50 km 100 metres under the sea. It’s top speed recorded has been
about 330km/hour. So, all in all, quite the experience.
We arrived
at Gare Du Nord station in Paris on time. It is a very attractive, well-lit building and we were immediately overwhelmed
at the size of it. There was a lot going on and for some reason they had
forgotten to put up the English signs, which added a touch of unnecessary complexity.
We eventually figured out which end was up. We had two priorities; one to find
a washroom and secondly to buy a Metro/public transit pass which would do for
all our needs for our stay.
We were a
bit shocked to find that a washroom break cost 1.5 Euros (about $2.50). This
was just a warmup for Paris proper where it cost us 2 euros later. Once we got
over that shock, we went to buy our Navigo transit pass. The man was very friendly
but neglected to mention that we were supposed to put a photo on it. A friendly
Metro Service guy who was checking our pass told us that not having our photo
on our pass would result in a 70 Euro fine. This same guy then took our photos,
printed them out, cut them to size and stuck them on for us. Who says the
French aren’t a friendly bunch? We later discovered that failure to do so would
have invited a 70 Euro fine.
Finally, we
were ready to brave the Paris Metro system, with all our luggage. We had
innocently imagined that there would be escalators or elevators to move our
heavy stuff around. We had to painfully lug our bags down and later up numerous
flights of stairs.
As part of
our Metro adventure, I was twice impressed by the gallantry of two young
people. One young guy offered up his seat for an older woman. Then, on our
final exit from the Metro we had about three levels to negotiate with our
luggage. A young woman noticed us struggling and ignored our claims of, “we’re
ok”, and just grabbed our biggest bag and lugged it herself. I must say I was
mightily impressed – and thankful.
Cher had
done a good job of finding a hotel close to our Metro station. We had a sinking
feeling though when we saw it had three stories. Hopefully we were not on the
third floor as we had been in London. Sure enough, our rather laid-back male
receptionist blandly informed us we were in room 34 on the, you guessed it,
third floor. We looked a bit dismayed, and he said, “don’t worry. I will help
you”. I made sure he got the biggest bag. As we ground our way up the levels,
we didn’t notice a single other guest. Chery said, “This place seems empty. We
booked months ago. Why did you put us on the third floor”. His response settled
our complaining; “We didn’t realize how old you are” That left us with food for
thought, while we unpacked and pondered how we are going to book hotel rooms in
the future and how old one needs to be to get a ground floor room.
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The Seine with the sun setting over it |
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Our first glimpse of Notre Dame |
Wednesday
May 28th, 2025
We enjoyed a
very simple, but pleasant ‘Petit dejeuner” breakfast at the hotel. There seems
to be a standard formula for this meal as it was being advertised at numerous places.
It consists of orange juice, a croissant and/or bread, butter and jam along with
tea or coffee. This light meal cost us 8 Euros, about 13 dollars. Not too bad,
and a pleasant start to the day.
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The beginning of the stairs up to Sacre Coeur |
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Sacre Coeur is set in some beautiful surroundings |
Next up was
a Metro dash across to the Arc de Triomphe to get a few obligatory photos
before heading east down the Champs Elysee, back in the direction of Notre Dame
and St. Chapelle, which had been highly recommended to us and where we had a
later booking. ]
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Rob - taking coffee, fresh from viewing the Arc de Triomphe |
Our stroll
down the Champs Elysee was great. It has very wide, pedestrian walkways on either
side, with traffic down the middle. As always, it was fun to enjoy the hustle
and bustle all around us. We stopped off in a park and had a picnic lunch, fed
some pigeons and then went in search of what turned out to be a two Euro (three
dollar) washroom break. It’s enough to make oneself give up eating and
drinking.
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The Fontaine de Mer at the Place de la Concorde with Egyptian obelisk to the left and National Gallery in the background |
Not much further
on was the approach to the Louvre, apparently the largest art museum in the world.
It truly is massive. Art is not our most favorite thing, so we had not even
bothered to wrestle with the massive crowds waiting to enter the building. We found
a nice patch of lawn and stopped for a rest and a snack. We were entertained by
at least two sets of young women who were dressed up to the nines and having a
wonderful time posing for camera shots. They were quite unconcerned by their
audience. We wondered if they were wannabee models, beefing up their portfolios.
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The Louvre - impressive but we couldn't face another line up |
At the end
of St. Chappelle we were done, and we headed for home. En route we had to cross
the Seine. It was a gorgeous evening, and we noticed folks sitting out at an
outdoor cafe on a lower pathway closer to the water. We decided it was too nice
an evening to sit in a stuffy hotel room, so we made our way down there and enjoyed
a drink and basking in the sunshine. We made our way back to our hotel via the
Chatelet les Halles to enjoy a shared pizza before heading home and bed, having
walked 24100 steps. Our aching bodies were confirming that number and sleep was
assured.
Thursday May
29th, 2025
Today was our
final day in Paris and we needed to make the most of it. Getting a reservation
to secure a visit to Notre Dame had proved impossible, but we had found a flaw
in the system – if you were attending mass, you didn’t need a reservation. How’s
about that for a novel idea – a church being used for something other than tourism?
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Notre Dame - looking bright and shiny after its recent do over |
After the
service we explored the rest of the church. They have done an amazing job of
restoring the church after the disastrous fire, five years back.
Out of the
church, we headed for the Latin Quarter on the left bank of the Seine. We took
a brief dip into the Sorbonne University and then were ready for a “petit dejeuner”
at a cute little outdoor café.
We headed west
along St. Gemaine road and then followed the guide book through some supposedly
popular shopping streets – just more overpriced stuff. Nothing to tempt us.
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Les Invalides from the back end. This is the edifice which houses Napoleon's tomb |
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Napoleon's sarcophagus has 5 nested coffins each made of increasingly rare material |
We had a 5.30pm
reservation to go up the Eifel Tower, with the usual advice to arrive 20 mins
early to allow for security and so on. The walk over there was pleasant, but at
this stage we were flagging and we found a park on the way down to stretch out
and join the hundreds of others who were enjoying the park. I had missed my usual
post lunch power nap, so lay on the grass with my backpack as a pillow and took
the opportunity to recharge. I could have stayed there if duty hadn’t called.
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The north facing view from the Eifel Tower |
Talking
about Jam packed. We caught the Metro back to our hotel. It was a public holiday,
and it seems there is a competition on days such as these to see how many folks
one can fit on one underground train. On embarking we took a deep breath and
squeezed on, with barely room to breathe. For the next 10 or so stops, additional
people just kept squeezing in. For folks who suffer from claustrophobia, this would
have been a nightmare. We eventually made it to our destination, found a pizza
place, enjoyed a cold drink, debriefed and cleared a whole bunch of photos
before heading a few steps to our hotel to pack. Tomorrow we are heading to Copenhagen,
Denmark to catch our cruise.
Today was
our biggest walking day so far, 26, 786 steps and 18km. We need all this all
pre-cruise exercise as I am guessing the good food on board will prove more tempting
than we can resist.
Friday May
31st, 2025
Today we
were up at crack of dawn. We were catching public transportation to the airport
and we didn’t want to face trying to maneuver all of our luggage in the middle
of rush hour traffic. We had discovered a station very close to our hotel which
would take us direct to the airport and the train could be accessed directly
with no steps, but four levels of escalators. We left at 7am and definitely beat
the rush, but only just. We lucked out and had stumbled onto an express train
to the airport.
We got chatting
with two ladies who had boarded at the same time as us. One of them had just
survived a pick pocket attempt. She had heard a zip go and felt a tug on her back
pack. It was two teenage girls, who presumably ran off. After all of our
exposure on the streets of Paris for two days, we felt blessed to have been
protected from this menace which we had been warned about.
Well this
ends the self-directed part of our anniversary trip. From here on, we will more
or less be in the hands of our cruise line MSC as we broaden our horizons to
the Baltic, an area we have heard lots of good things about, but to date had no
chance to enjoy.;